BE CAREFUL WHEN SETTING BOUNDARIES

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The Doctrine of Christ is mercy and compassion.
(Check my post THE DOCTRINE OF CHRIST)

So, how do we "blend" boundaries with mercy and compassion?

In my opinion, there is no better boundary than SINCERITY.

SINCERITY is such a powerful way of setting boundaries that it can even scare people sometimes.

We usually see people setting boundaries such as:

- Stop answering your calls or texts;
- Blocking you;
- Not replying to your emails;
- Ignoring and despising you;
- Being rude;
- Not explaining what's going on 
or what they're feeling;
- Trying to hurt you, etc.

These common boundaries do not communicate with clarity what you are feeling without hurting the person. Besides confusing the person and damaging your relationship.

When we use SINCERITY we do not always need to set boundaries. Because SINCERITY IS A BOUNDARY.

Boundaries may not always give you good results.

If you have difficulty saying the truth, expressing yourself and being honest with the person, you must know that if Jesus is the Truth and He is the only way to the Father (and the Father is Love), then, the only way to love is through the truth.

The Truth is the Light. Light help people see.
So, your sincerity is nothing more than obedience to God.

SINCERITY is an effective boundary.

When you want to establish a limit or a boundary, be careful.
Because if you do not use SINCERITY, you may hurt the person, damage your relationship, kill the love and, in the end, your boundaries may produce disrespect and bad results.

Using SINCERITY, explaining exactly what you feel, even if it's obvious, that will be an effective boundary.

When we show the truth of a situation or of our heart through clear and personal words, we love ourselves and the other person, without needing to set boundaries.
Because when people see the truth, the boundary is established naturally. And we even help each other to be better people.

 If after your sincerity nothing changes, then taking action is important, of course. 
But boundaries created without communication (without explaining your motives, or without explaining what is going on and giving a chance to see their response) can hurt and damage because the other person cannot always "get the message" like you think.

People respect and understand SINCERITY more than any other boundary you may try to use by force.
So, use sincerity instead of being wise in your own eyes.


"And this I pray, that your love may abound still more and more in knowledge and all discernment, that you may approve the things that are excellent, that you may be sincere and without offense till the day of Christ, being filled with the fruits of righteousness which are by Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God." Philippians 1: 9-11

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