The secret behind submission in a marriage
God has given to all wives a unique privilege. The privilege of submission.
Maybe this just offended some of you, but keep reading and you will see why submission is a good thing.
When we submit to our husbands despite what he does, says or thinks, we give God permission to lead our marriage.
In this post I will explain more about that, exposing to you the power of submission and the effects of doing it or not doing it.
Some women think that it's absurd to submit to an evil husband. But let me show you what happened when these two women decided to embrace submission at any cost, no matter what was happening.
My first example is Abigail. She had an evil husband. But she continued fearing God, respecting and submitting to her husband.
The obedience that she had to God did not depend on her husband's behavior or if her husband obeyed God or not.
God was looking and observing Abigail's position and her reaction/ response to her husband's wickedness. She kept herself in the position of a wife who pleases God.
God saw that. He judged it, and He gave a verdict.
God kills her husband with a disease says the Bible and gives her as a wife to King David. (not just to a better man, but to kind David!!!)
Like Abigail, we must remember that what happens in our lives should not affect our obedience to the Word of God. Only God can judge our husbands.
When we keep ourselves in the fear of God remembering that our perspective toward our husband might be wrong, we give to God the permission to enter in action and help us.
My second example is Queen Esther.
Esther's submission caused her husband's throne to become firm in righteousness.
Submission gives us the power to become spiritual leaders. It gives room for God to enter.
But how can we be able to continuously submit to our husbands when we don't agree or when they treat us in a way we don't like?
The answer is, loving God above all things and above ourselves too. That's how we become strong enough to do it.
Esther loved God above herself. She humbled herself before men and God.
When she went to see the king, risking her own life, the king had been despising her for one month.
Her confidence was probably weak and she was probably with a heartache.
When she went to see the king, she denied herself to God.
So, it is this kind of love for God that our power to walk in Spirit, overcoming our pain, comes from.
God gave to wives the function of leading the marriage through submission.
When we submit, we allow God to manage the problems of our marriage dealing face to face with our husbands, we open the channel of connection between them and God. Otherwise, we enter in the middle and end up being "so loud" that they can't hear God.
For example, if your husband is behaving in a way you don't like, and after pointing that out nothing changes, remain silent and wait for God. The Holy Spirit will convince him. And if that doesn't happen, wait, because God will do something. Your submission places your husband in God's hand.
When we submit, we lead our marriage because we remove our ego so that God may step in.
Queen Vashti was the queen before Esther. She did the opposite of Esther.
She put herself before everything, so she ended up losing her throne.
The same happens to us when we do that. We lose spiritual authority. We lose our power in the marriage.
Our authority and power come from submission.
Proverbs 12: 4 says...
"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones."
A crown has the role of declaring to everyone and to the enemy, that the person using it, reigns.
A wife who is a crown declares to the enemy that her husband reigns with power. Protecting him from attacks and lies. A protected man won't be vulnerable to whatever could damage your relationship with him.
How do we become crowns?
Through our obedience to the Word of God no matter what comes against us. God is the one asking you to submit, so your submission is your response to God not to your husband's behavior.
Remember that God is the one seeing everything and judging what's happening in your marriage, so partner with Him to build a great marriage; or even to be in a position where God will make justice to you if things are horrible, or not working out well, like in Abigail's case.
Maybe this just offended some of you, but keep reading and you will see why submission is a good thing.
When we submit to our husbands despite what he does, says or thinks, we give God permission to lead our marriage.
In this post I will explain more about that, exposing to you the power of submission and the effects of doing it or not doing it.
Some women think that it's absurd to submit to an evil husband. But let me show you what happened when these two women decided to embrace submission at any cost, no matter what was happening.
My first example is Abigail. She had an evil husband. But she continued fearing God, respecting and submitting to her husband.
The obedience that she had to God did not depend on her husband's behavior or if her husband obeyed God or not.
God was looking and observing Abigail's position and her reaction/ response to her husband's wickedness. She kept herself in the position of a wife who pleases God.
God saw that. He judged it, and He gave a verdict.
God kills her husband with a disease says the Bible and gives her as a wife to King David. (not just to a better man, but to kind David!!!)
Like Abigail, we must remember that what happens in our lives should not affect our obedience to the Word of God. Only God can judge our husbands.
When we keep ourselves in the fear of God remembering that our perspective toward our husband might be wrong, we give to God the permission to enter in action and help us.
My second example is Queen Esther.
Esther's submission caused her husband's throne to become firm in righteousness.
Submission gives us the power to become spiritual leaders. It gives room for God to enter.
But how can we be able to continuously submit to our husbands when we don't agree or when they treat us in a way we don't like?
The answer is, loving God above all things and above ourselves too. That's how we become strong enough to do it.
Esther loved God above herself. She humbled herself before men and God.
When she went to see the king, risking her own life, the king had been despising her for one month.
Her confidence was probably weak and she was probably with a heartache.
When she went to see the king, she denied herself to God.
So, it is this kind of love for God that our power to walk in Spirit, overcoming our pain, comes from.
God gave to wives the function of leading the marriage through submission.
When we submit, we allow God to manage the problems of our marriage dealing face to face with our husbands, we open the channel of connection between them and God. Otherwise, we enter in the middle and end up being "so loud" that they can't hear God.
For example, if your husband is behaving in a way you don't like, and after pointing that out nothing changes, remain silent and wait for God. The Holy Spirit will convince him. And if that doesn't happen, wait, because God will do something. Your submission places your husband in God's hand.
When we submit, we lead our marriage because we remove our ego so that God may step in.
Queen Vashti was the queen before Esther. She did the opposite of Esther.
She put herself before everything, so she ended up losing her throne.
The same happens to us when we do that. We lose spiritual authority. We lose our power in the marriage.
Our authority and power come from submission.
Proverbs 12: 4 says...
"An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, But she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones."
A crown has the role of declaring to everyone and to the enemy, that the person using it, reigns.
A wife who is a crown declares to the enemy that her husband reigns with power. Protecting him from attacks and lies. A protected man won't be vulnerable to whatever could damage your relationship with him.
How do we become crowns?
Through our obedience to the Word of God no matter what comes against us. God is the one asking you to submit, so your submission is your response to God not to your husband's behavior.
Remember that God is the one seeing everything and judging what's happening in your marriage, so partner with Him to build a great marriage; or even to be in a position where God will make justice to you if things are horrible, or not working out well, like in Abigail's case.
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